Debra Messing is much happier now she’s stopped focusing on her looks.
The 51-year-old actress candidly discussed her feelings on beauty and ageing in an op-ed for InStyle magazine in which the Will & Grace star shared that she’s finally stopped trying to change herself to fit in.
“At this point, I’m interested only in being the best version of myself. I’m not trying to change in order to fit some idea of what beautiful is,” Debra wrote, adding that she “never felt sexy enough” when she was in her 30s.
However, two decades later, she’s fully accepting herself and is trying to ignore the high beauty standards that are forced upon women.
“One of the greatest gifts of ageing is recognising the uniqueness of your own beauty. Any time spent thinking you’re less than someone else physically is just wasted time,” she explained. “We do, however, talk about it endlessly in our culture: how to live a healthy life, how to look 30 if you’re 40, which lotions or lasers work. It’s so much about the external, and as a woman, it’s exhausting.”
Elsewhere in the op-ed, the Smash star admitted she has found the confidence to be assertive and to think about what she wants in her life.
“I’m at a place where I understand it’s important to have a balanced life, and I’m willing to say no to things that I was too scared to say no to in my 30s. I’m a fully formed woman who knows who she is and what matters to her. And what really matters to me is that I’m young at heart,” she stated.
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